5 Things to Keep in Mind When Starting A New Relationship

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For most people, the first sign of spring could only mean one thing; time to frolic and be free. Budding flowers and longer sun shine hour’s means you can start shedding those winter layers and letting it all hang out. Spring and summer is the time to see and be seen! Besides, what would summer be with out a summer fling?

 Here are 5 things to keep in mind when starting a new “relationship”.

1-DONT Put your health before your (enter appropriate body part here). safety first!

2-Bury all of the drama baggage in the graveyard of the forgotten past.

3-Remember that how you begin something is how you end it so leave the lying for your resume!

4-Don’t over look inconsistencies.

5- Have fun (life is too short to be miserable!).

The Hit List!

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 Every one has asked that sweet thing in your life the most dreaded question. The one that makes the hair stand up on the back of your neck…(drumroll)

“How many people have you been with?”

 When I was a younger woman I use to entertain this query, begrudgingly fudging the numbers not merely because I didn’t want to be seen as some kind of harlot but because there was just way too much math involved! No woman has that number just hanging out in the back of her head (speaking for myself of course)

 I’d need a calculator because as a golden rule you are allowed to delete anything that happened in Vegas or on vacation, anyone with no real boy/girlfriend potential ( i.e – the cute super of your building) all one night stands, all FWB, anyone from Craigslist or Myspace and anyone that you could never in a million years admit to.

 The older you get, remembering your conquests feels more like taking the SAT’s all over again and who needs that kind of pressure? Is this a relationship or trigonometry?

 With all the passwords and access codes we have to remember today who has the mental capacity to trot down memory lane. I can’t remember to pack my lunch half the time and you want me to remember everyone I ever slept with?

 That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

The Thrill Is Gone

When a relationship is fresh and new you simply can’t get enough of one another. There is no limits to the amount of exploration in and out of the bed room but fast forward a few years, add jobs , responsibilities and you can even throw in baby or two for good measure and it can feel like the love train has come to a screeching halt. 

Does your once hot and steamy love life can feel like you have been doing the same old dance for far too long and its time to spice it up but you just don’t know where to start? Well don’t fret; all it takes is a little effective communication.

If you feel shy or uncomfortable at the thought of introducing something new into the bedroom, it’s ok to error on the side of caution. Go to your local adult toy store and purchase a few toys and movies that reflect your desires (keep the receipt!). When you and your lover have managed to slow the world down just long enough for some alone time, tell him/her you want to show him something you bought, hand them the bag of goodies and listen to the reaction.

 If the next thing you see is a smile from ear to ear then you know its a go!. Next stop freakyville!  If there are any signs of resistance pull out the receipt and tell your lover that you can return the items together for something that you would both enjoy.  

Mommy may I ?

Everyone knows it’s hard to understand women, and seemingly harder to please them. We are walking contradictions. We want a nice guy with bad habits. A guy who takes his Grandma to church, asks permissions and opens doors, but wears leather jackets, snake skin boots, drives a beast and can kick some ass (delete as applicable) also known as the alpha male!

 The alpha male is dominant and wouldn’t be caught dead asking for permission to hold your hand or kiss you and that’s just the way we (or maybe just I) like it. Superman didn’t ask permission to sweep Lois Lane off her feet, now did he?  But there are some times that even the alpha male        (think James Dean or George Clooney) must get the “Ok” before he proceeds. I don’t care how much smoldering sex appeal Mr. Hottie has, he can’t just whip out the butt plugs,  paddles whips and chains all willy-nilly.

 Some may be saying, “Who’s going to stop in the middle of a mindblowing, bed rattling escapade to ask your partner if it’s ok to _______( fill in the blank with whatever floats your boat),  and I get it, but nothing ruins a good time or a potential orgasm like having something shoved somewhere you don’t want it or wasn’t ready for (ouch!).

 

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Genevieve is the Co- Author of the erotic nove Good to the Last Drop available on Amazon.com