The Thrill Is Gone

When a relationship is fresh and new you simply can’t get enough of one another. There is no limits to the amount of exploration in and out of the bed room but fast forward a few years, add jobs , responsibilities and you can even throw in baby or two for good measure and it can feel like the love train has come to a screeching halt. 

Does your once hot and steamy love life can feel like you have been doing the same old dance for far too long and its time to spice it up but you just don’t know where to start? Well don’t fret; all it takes is a little effective communication.

If you feel shy or uncomfortable at the thought of introducing something new into the bedroom, it’s ok to error on the side of caution. Go to your local adult toy store and purchase a few toys and movies that reflect your desires (keep the receipt!). When you and your lover have managed to slow the world down just long enough for some alone time, tell him/her you want to show him something you bought, hand them the bag of goodies and listen to the reaction.

 If the next thing you see is a smile from ear to ear then you know its a go!. Next stop freakyville!  If there are any signs of resistance pull out the receipt and tell your lover that you can return the items together for something that you would both enjoy.  

Mommy may I ?

Everyone knows it’s hard to understand women, and seemingly harder to please them. We are walking contradictions. We want a nice guy with bad habits. A guy who takes his Grandma to church, asks permissions and opens doors, but wears leather jackets, snake skin boots, drives a beast and can kick some ass (delete as applicable) also known as the alpha male!

 The alpha male is dominant and wouldn’t be caught dead asking for permission to hold your hand or kiss you and that’s just the way we (or maybe just I) like it. Superman didn’t ask permission to sweep Lois Lane off her feet, now did he?  But there are some times that even the alpha male        (think James Dean or George Clooney) must get the “Ok” before he proceeds. I don’t care how much smoldering sex appeal Mr. Hottie has, he can’t just whip out the butt plugs,  paddles whips and chains all willy-nilly.

 Some may be saying, “Who’s going to stop in the middle of a mindblowing, bed rattling escapade to ask your partner if it’s ok to _______( fill in the blank with whatever floats your boat),  and I get it, but nothing ruins a good time or a potential orgasm like having something shoved somewhere you don’t want it or wasn’t ready for (ouch!).



Genevieve is the Co- Author of the erotic nove Good to the Last Drop available on